I don’t know about you – but sometimes when I do my creative work I found it so easy to focus on what I did wrong – or what I didn’t achieve that day.
I forget about everything I actually did accomplish and beat myself up for not being ‘productive enough’.
For example I might set myself a goal to knit a certain amount of samples on my knitting machine that day – but instead of making beautiful knits I end up having a bad knitting day!
I think all knitwear designers know what I am talking about here – when stitches drop, the carriage doesn’t want to move, the perfect piece of knit that you worked so hard on suddenly just falls off the machine etc. !
After all the hard work on my knitting machine a piece just might end up like this..
Sometimes I have worked hard on making a piece ‘just perfect’ and it all seems to been a smooth process… but when I try it on – it is too small or too big!
That happened to me the other day with a very cute barett I knitted – which ended up perfect for a 5 year old girl – not big enough for an adult as I intended.
Even if you are not a knitwear designer I am sure you have had similar experiences in your field. It doesn’t feel great when you had so many fantastic ideas – but you just can’t get it right!
It sucks I know! It feels like you have wasted your whole day and ended up achieve nothing. Then you feel worse logging onto Facebook or Instagram seeing other creatives – who magically achieved a lot of things that day.
This feeling of lack is never helpful and the only thing I think you must do is to accept that along your creative journey you will have days like this. That it ok! It is ok to have days when you don’t finish with a lot of ‘things’ to prove all the hard work you did put in.
It is important to remember that you do learn and achieve a lot during the ‘bad’ days as well – you perfect your skills, you learn how to trouble shoot, and you might even discover new techniques or get new unexpected ideas.
Actually the barett above was a result of a bad knitting day. I was meant to knit a striped sample, not a check-patterned, but I forgot to change colour at one point and once my knitting fell off the machine I discovered how nice it looked – despite the mistake – and the shape reminded me of a barett.
My recommendation is to start to focus on what you have achieved. I have a journal where I write down all the things I am grateful as well as what I have accomplished that day.
I try to celebrate even the tiniest things I did – like making lunch instead of buying lunch to making that phone call I had put off. What I have discovered is that I am much nicer to myself when I acknowledge what I have done instead of beating myself up for what I haven’t done.
On the rare occasions, when I start to beat myself up again, I also found myself getting out of that state of mind much faster – reminding myself of how amazing I am and how much I actually have accomplished.
If you need a bit of extra help I recommend you to also write down all the reasons why you are totally amazing! Don’t be shy.. It can be anything from being a great listener, having a great sense of style to making yummy fajitas.
In Gabby Bernstein’s book Miracles Now miracle message no 60 says:
So start this Easter-weekened by being kind to yourself and get yourself your journal where you can celebrate why you are amazing, what you have achieved and what you are grateful for. Remember: What we focus on expands!
Have you like me had trouble with being kind to yourself after a day that didn’t go as planned? Have you managed to turn it around? I would love to hear what helped you! Leave a comment below and let me know!